Ask Your Husband...

There is a freedom that God has given us as women. That freedom is the umbrella of authority that He has placed before us to protect us. The umbrella of authority that protects a women is first:

1. God
2. Her Husband

Once a woman understands that submission to her husband is true freedom and woman can begin to truly enjoy and experience peace with true abandonment simply because she is acting in accord to what the Lord has purposed for her life.

It is very freeing to know that the many weighty decisions that must be made for our families are ultimately our husbands responsibility. We will not be held accountable for our families the way our husbands will be---for God called Adam into account and not Eve.

It is a good thing to ask our husbands advice on all matters. We should not look to our family, parents, church leaders or other Christian woman first. Whenever woman ask me for advice I try to ask them 'What did your husband say about this matter?" and they will often reply "My husband? Well, I haven't told him yet..." and I then proceed to encourage them to quickly do so.

See ladies, so often I hear the very same ladies complain that their husbands are not the 'spiritual leaders' they think they should be. Well, I assure you, that as wives there are many ways we can help our husbands to become that leader simply by equipping him with confidence. Behind every great man, there is a woman and that woman helped to influence him to who he is today. Surely this is not always the case, but women should not belittle, ridicule or neglect consulting their husbands because this is not building him up. We equip them with confidence by going to them and asking their opinions and getting the final word from them. As they see us trusting them in their decision making they will steadily become more confident and emboldened to speak into our lives and others. This is part of God's plan to shape a godly man, by having his wife trust in him and submit. It is a blessed thing to witness a women who says 'let me ask my husband first'. Once we begin asking it becomes much easier to do this in the future. Most men are willing to die for their wives and families so why do we neglect to give them the honor of going to them first? When we follow the Lord's commands it is the beautiful, sacrificial act of submission---and for the Christian woman this means His unsurpassing peace and joy.



~From "A Wise Woman Builds Her Home"